"I only get one life and I will not let Fibromyalgia take the joy from my living it."

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

The Moldingly Obese

Have you ever noticed that fat people stink? I know I sound very insensitive and politically incorrect. But now that I myself am fat, I feel like I can say something about it. I mean, I don't think of myself as obese, although some doctors may. None of my doctors have ever suggested that I lose weight. Maybe because they know my circumstances. Or maybe because I'm really just what I consider myself to be, simply overweight. However, now that I am fatter I am very self conscious of becoming a stinky fat person. You know what I'm talking about, right? Really obese people have an odor about them. I've always thought it was because they had a difficult time showering or because they sweat more. Either way, I am determined not to become one of them. I've thought someone should speak out and help these people. But I don't want to reveal myself and my secrets to the world. But I was recently watching an episode of Bones, the television show about the crime fighting forensic anthropologist. She and her FBI partner walk into a room with a 500 pound women. Booth says, "What's that smell?" Bones stoically replies, "Mold. It grows in the fat creases of morbidly obese people." GROSS! So I decided to go ahead and tell you my secret to not being a stinky fat person. First of all, when washing I make sure that I wash well in the creases of my back fat. There, I said it. I have back fat. I still can't believe I just said that. UGH! Anyway, moving on. Be sure to rinse well and then dry well. Here's the big secret. Deodorant! Nothing perfumed either. Just powder fragrance. I use Dove. I wish the deodorant commercials would say this. I put deodorant under my breast. Let's face it, if you're bigger than a C cup you need it there. Skin on skin feels icky, especially when it's sweaty. Then I put deodorant in the creases of my back fat. OMG! I said it again. I have lost my mind! That's my big secret. You'll have to reread that last sentence because I am not saying (or typing) it again. But seriously, tell this secret to your BFFs. Your Best Fat Friends. Just don't point them to my blog. Despite the fact that I put it on the internet for the whole world to see, I don't really want everyone to know this about me. The reason I decided to write about it is because of my sensitivity to smells. When I smell things I get sick fast. This includes body odors, even my own. So do the world a favor, spread the word that deodorant is not just for underarms anymore.

19 comments:

  1. lol I just saw that episode of Bones and freaked out and googled "morbidly obese fat mold" and found this! I've spent a great amount of time being suicidal over this (my boyfriend's Mom planted FDS spray in my stuff...), and anyway, thanks for being brave and sharing--- it helps to know there are others out there who fight this... Blessings to you :)

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    1. I am currently watching this episode too and decided to google the mold thing! lol

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  2. do you know which episode the bones is? like what season and episode?

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    1. "The Man in the Cell"
      Season 2, Episode 12
      You can watch it instant on netflix or hulu.

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  3. REALLY! That's all you can come up with? Fat people are not the only people that have Oder, every shape and size has Oder, I think people should start helping instead of complaining or making fun of the Obiese there are 1000 things going on in the world every day that command more attention then obiese Oder it is offensive I myself am a large person I am so glad that
    Fat is my affliction I can loose weight and change my body size but there is no cure for Ignorance ..... You know it's really sad there are rights for gay people and black people Latinos Indian ect ect but some where along the way we decided that fat people were less then human or less worthy of the same rights that all other americans get... I would suggest a little more empathy and focus on God and a lot less worry about the fragrance of a person that you don't have to be around and can walk away at any time ....You nor any other human is better than or above another...

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    1. First of all speaking of God, the bible says your body is a temple. We should take care of ourselves. Being overweight isn't healthy and people should be more concerned about it. I don't hate fat people, but it does make me sad that people are so careless about the way they treat their bodies. Second of all, smelling good is important. Everyone should make an effort to smell good.

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    2. As a person who is overweight I find your lack of tack very appalling. People are not over weight because they are "careless" Most people who are over weight care more than you know. Over eating due to stress cause by MANY different reasons. I my self have tried many different diets with little or no success. It was not until I stumbled across and article about impulse disorders cause by witnessing my parents beating the hell out of each other is the true cause of my eating disorder, so before you go spouting your mouth off remember theirs a person behind that wall of fat who might just "CARE" about what your saying about him or her.

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    3. Anonymous #2 (Oct 7),
      I know that your reply about "being careless" was to Anonymous #1 (Aug 16), but I feel your pain so I wanted to chime in because as well as having a problem with controlling what goes in my mouth I sometimes can't stop what comes out of it. But that's probably why someone created blogs. As a young adult I was diagnosed with compulsive overeating. With the help of a therapist I learned that one of the main reasons was because I learned from my father that a person's value is based on how much that person could eat in one sitting. It sounds weird and it's too long of a story to explain. But I did get help from a book called "Weigh Down Diet" by Gwen Shamblin. But I will tell you it is still hard. I lost weight, but still gained and lost and gained over the years. However, it is a great program with lots of insight and I do try to stick to it because I know my core issues are specifically dealt with on this program which is not a "diet".

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    4. Wow it is nice to hear that there are other people out there that suffer from the same problems as I do. Not that I am glad you suffer but that I am not alone. I used to think I had NES (night eating syndrome) for no good reason, But with the help of my therapist I was able to finally understand it was about controlling my universe. Well not actually controlling it but more or less letting go and allowing myself to find peace in what I can. Thanks for your reply,
      Darren From BC

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    5. I don't feel that This is My FIbro was being offensive at all. She herself said she was overweight. As someone that used to be 95 lbs overweight, I can confidently say I used to worry about my odor constantly. I sweated CONSTANTLY even though I washed frequently. I couldn't lose the weight either, because I was on steroids for Adrenal Insufficiency and I also have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and Fibromyalgia. When I came off the steroids I was finally able to lose the weight.
      All I saw that this woman was doing was expressing her own insecurities about being overweight, including the odor that can sometimes come with it.
      Also, to the person that said fat people are careless with their bodies... not all are. I had literally no control over my weight gain. Thanks to the steroids I was eating only 1000 calories a day and still putting on weight. Thanks to the EDS and Fibro it was impossible for me to exercise without causing horrible injuries. Some people have SEVERE anxieties that have a grip on them, as well... it's not ALWAYS as simple as skinny people seem to think it is.

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    6. You can't liken being fat to being Hispanic, Indian or any other race-being fat is not a race. It's a choice. You are silly.

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  4. You're right. Everyone has odor. I know that more than anyone. Because you are also wrong. I cannot walk away from it. I have a hypersensitivity to smells. I can smell everything! And it all makes me sick. Your beautiful perfume that you paid $100 an ounce for makes me want to vomit. As does the garlic reeking from your pores because your lasagne is the best I've ever eaten. I would have to live in a bubble. Is this the only post you've read? And another thing that you're wrong about is that not everyone CAN lose weight. I'm glad that you can lose weight and that obesity is your only affliction. However, for lots of people, especially those with Fibromyalgia, we are afflicted with a disorder that causes us to gain weight for several reasons. Then we have to take medicine that causes us to gain weight. I gain weight breathing air. But I feel better fat than I do if I don't take the medicine. How's that for irony? Obesity is killing Americans? Cause it sure feels like Fibromyalgia is killing me. And Obese people do get rights. They are allowed handicap parking because they can't walk, they get scooters in the store for the same reason. Airlines must provide extra long seat belts for them, no matter how uncomfortable the person next to them may be even though they paid for their ticket too. And I wasn't making fun of obese people. I was sharing a tip on how I handle a sensitive topic as a result of something caused by being overweight. That's what I do in the "solutions" section is give tips. Girl talk, you know? For instance, tired of tampons? Use the Diva Cup. Google it! I know what it's like to be fat and made fun of too. I've experienced it my whole life. But I diffuse harsh topics with humor. I'm sorry if you took it the wrong way. You don't have to read my blog. However, I do thank you for sharing your comment. As long as the language is clean, you're not too offensive in other ways or include personal information, I will always post the comments even if you are rude to me or don't agree with me because I do value others opinions. That is the point of a forum.
    Your personal attacks against my relationship with God and my empathy for humanity were uncalled for and prove that you know do not know me. Let me invite you to read my entire blog so that you can learn a little bit more about me.

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  5. Thank you for your wide open honesty! As a curvy girl I have always wondered if I can put deodorant under my breast! Tomorrow is the test! And BIG thanks for being open! GO CURVY!

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  6. I highly recommend another cleanliness aid, the toilet paper extension wand, "Long Reach Comfort Wipe" to keep those hard-to-reach areas clean all day long. You can use the wand with personal wipes. Under $10 and totally worth it. http://www.vitalitymedical.com/long-reach-comfort-wipe-toilet-paper-wand.html

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  7. Thank you for the info. I watch that episode of Bones as well, which lead me to your blog. It help a lot.

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  8. Its nice to have a place to search for support dealing with obesity. I am so tired of people thinking that people are fat because they have no self control. I can tell you as a woman who has been dieting since she was 9, it just isn't that simple for all of us. Some of us may never be a normal weight. The last time I maintained a "normal" weight of a 14/16 ( I am 5'2) I was eating no dairy, no grains, no sugar, no caffeine, no grains, and exercising over 20 hours a week. My body does not maintain a normal weight..EVER... It must be nice to be one of those people gets to be thin without having to really work at it!!... as for the smell: I have been dealing with chronic systematic yeast ( hence intense cravings for sugar and carbs and more sugar) which is in my underarm, inner thigh and under breast... it gets activated by heat and humidity... and can be very painful to the touch and very smelly... no matter what I do, it comes back, and has for 20 years.. so the heavier I am, the more it comes back..Ug!!
    I do use a deodorant chrystal...no chemicals as I have fragrance allergies... and I used the chrystal wherever there is a scent, as long as there is no open skin. also cornstarch is really great..for smell, and sweat, and chafing..

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  9. I found it rude and offensive. But also the truth. Could've been worded a little kinder maybe tho.

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  10. I am one of those morbidly obese people, weighing in at nearly 500 lbs. I remember when I weighed a mere 300 and I smelled someone larger than me when they walked past. It was disgusting! I always worry about how I smell. It is very hard and time consuming to keep all the fat creases clean and fresh. And luckily, I am still very mobile, working 2 jobs where I am on my feet. This helps me stay limber enough to reach my rolls. Ha Anyway, the deodorant thing actually works. I do that. Other ways to ensure I don't stink, include showering daily (obviously lol), using an extension shower head to clean under the rolls, Lotrimun powder to keep the skin from rubbing so much and the yeast at bay, baby wipes to clean periodically throughout the day inside the creases, and wet paper towels. I use the paper towels when I have worked all day and am not going straight home. If I can tell my stomach is starting to stick to my leg and rub, the wet paper towel is a great buffer til I can get home and shower. Eating is an addiction for some, like me. Until I can lose weight, these things help me be a part of the world without smelling bad!

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  11. Thank you to those who have given your tips on how to stop and/or cover the odor. Sorry it has taken me so long to post them. I hope these help.

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